Apr. 9th, 2017 09:22 pm
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Well it looks like some-but-not all of my LJ may have made it over. Which is fine with me.

My gods, my life was all sorts of fucked up before I finally left the wasband.
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Since it is Letter Month, I'm using it as a perfect excuse to rebuild my address book. Assume I don't have yours, and add it here:


The bonus to this is that you will probably get a letter from me, written with one of my dip pens :)
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I have been a Very Busy Eleri on this...

InkWorks Productions is pleased to announce the launch of the Kickstarter for Unwritten: Adventures in the Ages of Myst and Beyond

Unwritten brings the surreal worlds of Myst and Uru to tabletop role-playing. Using the popular FATE gaming engine, Unwritten gives players the chance to delve into the depths of D’ni’s troubled past, influence the future of the D’ni, and explore or even create new Ages.

The D’niverse has room for any of the stories you want to tell. YOUR story is Unwritten.

The Kickstarter includes some fantastic rewards, including full BETA access, handcrafted arts, and, of course the book itself!

We invite you to become a part of Unwritten, and help bring the Ages of the D'ni from the video game, into the hands of players & GMs

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Working my ass off on www.unwrittenrpg.com Is a good thing, but slogging though artists is a bit mind numbing. Especially On A Budget. And after seeing several rants of the "If you are undercharging (acccording to *my* criteria!) for your art, you SUCK" variety, I'm sore tempted to go find the talented undercharging artists and hire them. I hate it when people make personal judgements based on someone's price tag.

Got and unexpectedly snarky message from someone I dated previously. Bemused me.

Sometimes have this vague wish that someone would be interested in me enough to want to 'woo' me... because this 'lets check our google cal' method of 'dating' kinda sucks.

I have pseudoadult children. Why should I need house elves? Because getting said pseudoadults to do anything involves me having to use up spoons I don't feel like spending.

Body is not impressed with the advent of Rainy Season... which will last until about June.

Vaguely irritated at how much I don't fit in to most of the social groups around me. Not crunchy organic enough for those people, not queer enough for those, not socially concious/activist enough for those, not enough of a gamer there, or a programmer there, or a writer, or an artist, or or or... Sucks.


Apr. 14th, 2013 01:53 pm
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Somewhere in my LJ is a story I wrote that Didn't Suck. It even went to a writer's workshop in early 2006 (sho it should be in 2005 somewhere, yes?) And I can't find it. Foo.

Wait! I found a reference to it in March 2005... so it has to be somewhere before that... *digdigdig*

Grrr, found where I asked people to look at the first draft in Nov 2004. It hasta be here.
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The Ingressification of The Battle of New Orleans, set in Seattle, with smurfs taking the role of the Brits, and frogs (or toads) being the victors.
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Seattle peeps (and those further afield, but I'm really recruiting locally)! If you are willing to join the Enlightenment, I have Ingress invite codes.
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I've been trying to figure out how to feed my G+ over here, with no luck. My old Philosopheasy blog streams to G+ now, and G+ can feed go to twitter & FB- but I can't remember if the blog ever fed to here. Bah, people are in too many places.
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It is cold and rainy out, so the Katten Hoard is all inside, there's Widget & Boagshi on the futon, Tweedle Dun is under the Christmas tree and Tweedle Dee has userped Creamsicle's spot on top of the bird cage- so he's lounging under the cat tree. Dee used to sleep on the cat tree, until she discovered she couldn't sprawl, or she'd fall off. (How did the bitty Tweedles become the biggest cats in the house?!) Bahro Flupp is flupped on a piece of newspaper, Teram is wedged between a pillow and some laundry in our room, and Yeesha Beast has taken to sleeping on Mousie's bed at night.

My heart has not adjusted to losing Dimo the Jagerkitten yet. I keep expecting to wake up to him sitting by my face, or making little meeping noises for Tasty Measts! when I am cooking.

Pookie is moving out, over to Port Orchard... she's not taking Creamsicle with her, because he would have to become an indoor cat (coyotes), and that would be rough on him, since he's the I LOVE WATER YAY IT IS RAINING YAY A HOSE YAY A SPRINKLER (but ZOMGNOBATH!) cat. Tiffer is down at his grandparents. I suspect he is going to stay down there for a while. Probably better for him if he did move back down there, although my mom drives him batty after a while.

Ooof. Now the Creamsicle is on my lap (well, draped up over my shoulder). This is a get into bed mom hint. I should take it, since it is 3 am...
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Pinging Zander & Tom- RIUM+ is in need of songs about time travel, please for to be helping me make a list?
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I've got classes scheduled at Jigsaw Rennaisance, just in time for making holiday gifts & decorations :)

PAPERMAKING- 2 day class Nov 11th & 18th at 1pm

Class details & registration is at ECLECTICAT CLASSES
Sign up and spread the news :)
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I went over some of what was bugging me about the whole 'don't be a creeper' thing yesterday.

Then this post from John Scalzi came along, and (as always) it is well written and clearly stated. So I wanted to go through it point by point. Also, for background, understand that I am a person who experienced sexual assault & coercion as a teenager, and was married for 10 years to someone who had behaviors that could be considered rape.
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Scalzi goes into some What To Do points after this, the first of which is *Don't Touch*- "Here’s an idea: That person you want to touch? Put them in charge of the whole touch experience. That is, let them initiate any physical contact and let them set the pace of that contact when or if they do.

Ok, here is exactly what I was talking about yesterday- we're making people touchphobic. If everyone is always sitting around for the other person to be the first one to touch, then no one elver will! At the very least that should be ASK before touching, and Deal With It if the answer is no.

He brings this contradiction up later, too- "Let the other person be in change of starting the sexual innuendo." What, are people supposed to Rock/Scissors/Paper for it? You can't make being the first to touch/flirt/be suggestive into part of the 'This Person is a Creeper' checklist otherwise EVERYONE will be in the list.

The other thing that shows up in these threads about creepers (and, for some reason, I hate that term.) is that even though people admit there are females who are creepy- much of the assumption is that the offenders are male. So is that because males are more likely to be creepers, or that we're more accepting of 'creeper' behavior out of women? I think it is the latter. Women can hug, touch, flirt, comment on how 'hot' someone is, and no one accuses them of being a creepy pervert.

Heck, look at the latest 3Muskateers ad- three professional looking women cat-calling at a guy- And his body language is all "Why thank you!". Of course they were really cat-calling at the candy, but that's not the point. Can you imagine if this ad was gender reversed? Holly crap there would be an uproar. The woman would have been pegged a slut or a sell-out, the guys as oppressive creepy stalkers.

And yeah, I know that it comes from the fact that men are more likely to assault women, than vice versa- but the double standard exists, and needs to stop being glossed over. Too often pointing out that double standard is attacked as being apologistic. But, lets face it people; read through that list of Scalzi's and ask yourself if women are expected to follow those rules- with either gender? Acknowledge that 98% of the "how not to be a creeper" conversation is directed at a heteronormative 'guys who are interacting with girls', and that girls interacting with guys are not held to the same high standard of behavior to prevent being labeled.
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Was reading through some posts elsenet about dealing with Creepy Guys- and all of the information and advice given was spot on... but I noticed something in some of the posts that bugged me.

See, there was quite a few ladies who said "OMG yeah, we had this guy who was such a slimeball/creep/pervert..." and then they'd go on to describe a guy who would offer/ask for physical contact, and stop when told no. Often they'd say how said guy would offer to someone else- and that someone might say yes. And the write would express confusion that someone would 'seem' to be enjoying contact with the guy.

And that's where it bugged me. Here are people who are stating a physical request openly, and taking no as an answer, but because they make the offer to multiple people, or ask more than once on different occasions, they're a creepy pervert. Even if they take no, even if they don't complain and whine about your no, they're a creep. And if (like someone did) you spoke up and say you don't find that creepy, you got jumped on. Called a rape apologist, enabler, told you are invalidating the victim's feelings, and so on.

I keep seeing things like this around, and it is really starting to get to me. Like the essay someone linked to a while back that said that if you've ever 'persuaded' your chosen partner to have sex by snuggling them or nibbling them or whatever when they've not really been in the mood- then you are guilty of assaulting them, violating their boundaries, forcing them into coercive sex. I've even seen it called 'soft rape'(like there's degrees of rape or somesuch, the same people get pissed at 'rape'-rape ...). I dunno about the rest of you, but there's been times when I'm kinda 'eh' about sex, and a few well placed nibbles or whispered words gets me happily in the mood. The idea that I've somehow been coerced against my will is to laugh. Have I ever had sex when I didn't really want to? Yup. Did I feel horribly violated? Nope. I enjoy my partner's enjoyment, even when mine isn't percolating. I sit and watch movies I'm not really into, too.

I dunno where I'm going with this, really- other than the simple concept of no-means-no seems to have turned into this you-are-a-predator-if-you-can't-correctly-interpret-every-person-around-you's-non-verbal-communication rule instead, and I don't think that serves women or men very well.

It feels like a culture of absolutism is evolving- where openly expressing admiration for someone's physical traits is *always* offensive; asking for any level of physical contact makes you suspect (even as you are required to ask every time); physical intimacy will only be labeled non-coersive if you negotiate a written contract ahead of time, only the girl gets a clause to change or end the contract mid-stream, and the guy isn't even allowed to express a sense of sexual dissapointment, let alone any other emotions. Where every male is assumed to be a threat, and every woman is expected to act like they are.
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This started out as a G+ comment, and then I realized I didn't feel like getting into it with people there. Then it went into a G+ post, but it got long and ranty, and there's no cut tags on G+. So over here it came.

I have to admit, sometimes the whole "that's sexist!" discussion confuses me- and I'm female. I like looking sexy. I like looking at things that look sexy. I also like characters that kick ass, regardless of what they are (or aren't) wearing. As far as I can tell, this makes me sexist.

I don't have a problem with anyone saying they'd like to see more modestly dressed female characters. I think that's a perfectly reasonable, valid, important thing to ask for. I don't see a problem with things like pointing out how idiotic most supergal poses are compared to their male counterparts, or how almost every urban fantasy out there with a woman protagonist has a cheesy image on the cover. Women are almost universally pictured sexy first, and there should be more of a balance.
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Feb. 10th, 2012 11:20 pm
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I forgot I had this!

My Valentinr - eleri
Get your own valentinr
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I need 5 volunteers, scattered about the US, for a...something. Interested parties should know their area fairly well, and know how to use a GPS.

If this is you, go here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheet/viewform?hl=en_US&formkey=dDRtdmMxMV9aN2s1aW93ZTh5bnhmZmc6MQ#gid=0


Dec. 12th, 2011 10:34 pm
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on the off chance that there are people here that didn't see this on G+ or FB, is the Kickstarter link

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I've stared at the blank space for a while, pondering what to type. I post random inanities over on FB, link to the occasional serious discussion or nifty thing over on G+, but I don't really talk much anymore. Death and violence over the last few weeks brought home how distant I am from everyone I used to consider 'family' or 'community', places I thought I fit in before feel awkward. And I just don't really have much to say. Stuff I find interesting isn't to others, my downs are all the same ones that have been rehashed over the past decade or so, and there's only so much nodding and smiling or vague rumblings of empathy people can do.
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See? any talking I do ends up a litany of Everything That Is Wrong. I just don't have enough Things That Are Right to talk about. How about that weather? How about that Local Sports Team?

Oh, huh.

Oct. 16th, 2011 10:39 pm
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I just got an email saying my paid account was about to run out. My response was "I have a paid account?"
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I is in need of some brave filk artists who might be willing to record some tunez for a small project

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